We get married about a year later, and he moves to Canada, gets a job, and we live together for those 14 years. More dating, sex, and talking happens for about three years until I move to western Canada to find work. We met in person that summer and spent it going on dates and having sex, and it ended with him moving to Maine from California to be close enough to drive to see me every other month. I confessed my feelings for him online, and it turned into an online relationship. … We met on LiveJournal and formed a friendship that turned romantic after about five months or so. “My long-distance online relationship turned into a ‘real-life’ relationship, which turned into a marriage of 14 years and counting. (Edit: But I’d never say never, depends on the person and the circumstances.)” And I’m an insecure person, so I’m into monogamy, so open relationship isn’t an option for me. Not having them there for physical comfort and sexual pleasure would probably be frustrating for me, too. If I choose you as a partner, I want you with me as part of my life.
“Can’t imagine I’d be into a long-distance relationship. They don’t work-or, they don’t work for me.
(Then again, these were heterosexual couples, so our mileage may vary.)Īnyway, here’s what Redditors had said about gay guys in long-distance relationship-with responses organized into “yea” and “nay” columns and condensed and edited for readability. “The intimacy developed here is a psychological closeness-it doesn’t include physical or sexual intimacy,” Jiang added. Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Maybe, maybe not! Reddit users were divided on the topic of long-distance relationships in a recent r/AskGayMen thread, with some saying they found lasting love with suitors miles or even oceans away, and others saying their long-distance relationships crashed and burned.įor what it’s worth, a study published in the Journal of Communication in 2013 found that duos in long-distance relationships had more meaningful relationships than those who saw each other daily-with the long-distance couples having more frequent communications and more “relationally intense” conversations, as study co-author Crystal Jiang of the City University of Hong Kong told USA Today.